MADD Parents

PowerTalk 21 Day

2011-04-28T11:48:00.000-07:00

Last week, parents around the country started the conversation on PowerTalk 21™ day—the national day to talk about kids an alcohol. MADD hosted national events in Dallas, New York and San Diego as well as local events in cities and towns across the country. Congress made it official by passing a resolution deeming April 21 as PowerTalk 21 day.

I have a 20-year-old daughter of my own, and I know how hard this topic can be. Kids don’t come with instruction manuals. That’s why MADD developed the Power of Parents, It’s Your Influence™ handbook. It provides valuable insights into teens and tips on communicating about a tough topic in a way that can reduce your child’s risk of drinking by up to 30 percent. I’ve used it myself and trust me…it’s worth downloading (which you can do here).

We’re also providing free parent workshops in cities across the country. I was lucky enough to host one in San Diego. The feedback was unanimously positive. Parents appreciated the help tackling this difficult topic. Click here to see if there is an upcoming workshop in your area.

If you missed PowerTalk 21 day, don’t worry. This can’t be a one time conversation. Parents need to talk about this important topic with their kids early and often. Department of Transportation Secretary Ray LaHood echoed these sentiments in his blog, reminding parents that “every day is a good day for starting that discussion.”

Check out some of our pictures from events across the country and mark your calendar for next year’s PowerTalk 21 on April 21, 2012! In the meantime, keep talking …

PowerTalk 21 is Today!

2011-04-21T07:57:00.000-07:00

Today is the day...the day to start talking to your teens if you haven't already. Communities across the country are rallying to keep our teens safe from the drug that kills more youth than all other drugs combined--alcohol.

Raising a teen isn't easy and they don't come with instruction manuals. That's why MADD teamed up with Dr. Robert Turrisi of Penn State Univ to create the Power of Parents, It's Your Influence handbook. This handbook is easy to use and includes proven techniques to improve communications between parents and their teens, often resulting in a 30% reduction in underage drinking.

You can find a FREE 30 minute workshop in your area where you can attend and get started with the handbook. If there is not a workshop in your area, you can download the handbook at madd.org/powerofparents.

Thanks to Nationwide Insurance, our wonderful Presenting Sponsor, and the GM Foundation, our supporting sponsor, we are able to offer these tools at no charge. So, why not give it a try? You'll find the tips to talk (and listen) to your teens helpful...I know I sure did!

PowerTalk 21...it's time to talk!

Parents, do you really want to know about your teens college atmosphere?

2010-08-25T11:43:00.000-07:00

Want to know the top school for a "No Last Call" or "Walk of Shame?" Unigo.com has a list that they claim represents actual students opinions on what is happening on their campuses. No doubt, a lot of underage, illegal drinking happens on many college campuses. This list shows you the worst of the worst for partying.

This is just another reminder that we (yes, me included) need to continue to talk to our college students about the dangers of underage drinking. It's fall...well not here in sweltering Texas...and it's time to have those talks again. You can do it!

Why giving alcohol to kids is such a bad idea

2010-08-11T07:54:00.000-07:00

Just found this series of articles from Minnesota that clearly lay out why providing alcohol to minors is such a bad idea. Check it out at:
http://www.udetc.org/documents/judicial/0710eNews/BadIdea.pdf

Parents are Important: Check out new study

2010-06-30T10:53:00.000-07:00

Another study confirming the importance of parents in teens making decisions about drinking alcohol. MADD's resources support parents in their roles to keep teens alcohol free.

Taking Time For Dad

2010-06-15T08:46:00.000-07:00

Father's Day is this weekend and we can think of so many things dads are great at including: playing, teaching perseverence, helping with sports, and leading families. They protect us, we should help protect them too. Reminding them to designate a sober driver before celebrating, or offering to drive them home. Also, there are many dads who have lost loved ones or even children, due to drunk driving. We encourage them to call MADD's trained victim advocates at 1-877-MADD-HELP. We are here every day, all day and all night. Remember to let your dad know how much you care about him.

The Univited Guest that Still Shows Up

2010-06-08T09:20:00.000-07:00

They did what they were suppose to do. They uninvited alcohol and drugs to their daughter's graduation party but alcohol still showed up. Now, the parents are charged with hosting an underage drinking party versus a really, cool graduation party full of happy memories. Parents can start early and often talking to teens about alcohol but as the saying goes, "I'm not so worried about you, but I am worried about others," still holds true here. They thought they covered all bases and communicated no alcohol but it still showed up at their home. Do bouncers with breath test devices have to be hired to monitor and control graduation parties and other underage gatherings celebrating the end of a school year? I'm not sure where you find that in the yellow pages...maybe where you found clowns, makeup artists and bounce houses when they were little.

I'm Bored

2010-05-18T09:08:00.000-07:00

When teens are bored what do they do? Some may drink and others may play video games, chat, Internet, Facebook, ipod, and iphone. Some say being bored is ok. It actually teaches someone how to think without being told what to think about and what to do. Being bored might be a sign that the teen is working to find their way through a problem or a solution or be creative. Society may not nurture these instincts too much these days because there there are too many shiny, new gadgets to sell. We applaud parents working to parent and teach their teens how to embrace being bored without being distracted or diverted from their mission: to be successful at being them and no one else.

2010-05-10T12:47:00.000-07:00

Last week there was an article on a kansascity.com blog: http://blogs.kansascity.com/crime_scene/2010/05/should-parents-let-teens-drink-alcohol-at-home.html

It talks about this being the time of year when graduation and prom parties are in full swing...and sometimes they are "hosted" by parents who full-well know the kids in attendance will be drinking alcohol.

Our Powerofparents.org Web site is a great tool for knowing what the laws are, knowing what to use to start (or continue) the conversation about underage drinking and knowing what the experts say.

We have a job as parents and that is to...PARENT. Teaching our kids about "how" to drink is not the best way to do it. It is illegal for them to drink underage. Are we going to tell them it is OK to break this law, but they better not break other laws? Talk about a mixed message.

WSJ looks at binge drinking in the U.K.--it's a big problem

2010-04-29T13:39:00.000-07:00

Don't buy into the myth that binge drinking is not a problem for those under 21 in other countries. Here is one snippet from an article in the WSJ this month:

The average Briton 15 and older drinks the equivalent of about 11.2 liters (about three gallons) of pure alcohol a year, compared with the OECD average of 9.7 liters, and 8.6 liters in the U.S. Over one-quarter of England's population is "drinking at hazardous levels," according to a recent report by the Royal College of Physicians and the National Health Service Confederation

To read the entire article go to: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704588404575123691166554882.html

Are your kids sneaking into R-rated movies?

2010-04-29T08:53:00.000-07:00

According to USA Today's Sharon Jayson, "Middle-schoolers who are forbidden to watch R-rated movies are less likely to start drinking than peers whose parents are more lenient about such films, new research on 2,406 children shows. Researchers at Dartmouth Medical School found that among those whose parents let them watch R-rated movies "all the time," almost a quarter had tried a drink without their parents' knowledge. That compares with barely 3% who tried a drink among those who were "never allowed" to watch R-movies."

What show are you going to see this weekend? What show is your pre-teen or teen going to watch?

It's a constant battle

2010-04-15T12:27:00.000-07:00

My daughter is in college and is exposed to parties of all sorts. I'm not naive enough to think that there probably isn't booze at these parties, so I'm continually carrying on the dialogue with her about underage drinking. I remind her (again) about the dangerous effects of drinking underage, as well as the fact that it is illegal since she's under 21. Of course, her daddy Mike was killed by a drunk driver when she was a baby, so there is that as one of the biggest reasons to never drink, drive drunk or get in a car with someone who has been drinking. It IS a constant battle...but, we're winning.

Hello Kitty is Old Enough to Drink

2010-04-12T07:38:00.000-07:00

Let's just say I am very familiar with the Hello Kitty brand and now can be thankful that not only will my daughters be able to play with her pencils, purses and stuffed animals, but when old enough (21), to drink Hello Kitty wine.

As women continue to catch up with men in drinking and drunk driving, is this a good idea?

Beach Blanket Bingo

2010-03-15T12:14:00.001-07:00

Spring Break is here and many colleges have started spring break. Now, there are three sets of teens usually: 1) those in college 2) those working and 3) those in college and working. Studies prove those in college drink more. So what is a parent to do? You want your child to succeed, get a good job and have fun.

Tips for success:
1) don't equate drinking to having fun and the only way to have fun
2) know who your children hang around with
3) talk to them early about the dangers of drinking underage
4) limit exposure to some media that might romanticize spring break extravagance, including drinking games and sex-filled images.
5) talk to them early about dangers of underage drinking.

Checkout the movie Beach Blanket Bingo, if all else fails and remind teens Frankie and Annette never drank or had sex and there was a lot of dancing, singing and fun!

The Early Years

2010-03-05T08:24:00.000-08:00

I was visiting with a mother of one of the student's in my oldest's Kindergarten class when she shared "watch out for third grade." I asked what she meant and she said the girls start getting mean and clicks start emerging. She advised to get to know all the parents and start talking to one another because as she put it "I want to know if my daughter is ever the mean girl." "You'd tell me right?" I told her yes. I thought to myself, third grade? What in the world. She went on to explain, as well as one of the teachers, that hormones start and kids start getting more and more a sense of self and the comparisons start and peer pressure, I suppose. Knowing their friends and knowing what is on their minds, even in elementary school, sets up a great conversation line for future situations. I want my oldest to hold her own and have her own confidence, not look to clique groups to give that sense of identity to her.

Check out these offerings for schools trying to reach elementary students about peer pressure and their brain. Let's protect them and help them protect themselves.

Not a lot of family support

2010-03-03T13:43:00.000-08:00

If you do not have a lot of family support raising your children, it may be a bit more difficult. This article about the new Ron Howard show Parenthood shines a light on how TV portrays tight-knit, close in proximity families helping each other out, arguing and generally always around. This is not reality for most people. Relatives live all over the country and that family bonding and help with children is from afar and electronic. Do kids who have a lot of family support around them, do better? Do families that have a lot of family (or friend) support do better? All of the tough situations in life may just be a bit easier to confront, tackle and recover with a strong family and friendship support system.

This Weekend

2010-03-01T09:48:00.000-08:00

How many parties did your teen have a chance to go to this weekend where alcohol was served? Did you talk to them ahead of time and ask them to not go? Did they go and get drunk or tell their friends they don't like to drink? How does your teen deal with peer pressure? How do you deal with your teen's peer pressure problems? Running the other way won't help. Here's how to answer some of their tough questions.

Please call me if my college kid drinks

2010-02-25T12:01:00.000-08:00

A recent article in The Washington Post highlights the need for parents to better understand what is going on with their adult-aged children in college. Underage drinking and parties seem par for the course for many college kids, but if they are under 21, they are not suppose to be drinking according to the law. Rather than look the other way, colleges see where problems continue to lurk when underage drinking runs rampant: bad grades, sexual assaults, injuries, etc. Now, many colleges will tell parents what their teens are up to in order for the parents to join forces with them to protect the youth. I suppose the adage, "you can run but you can't hide" comes to mind and teens should take note. I know I'd want my teen's college to call me if they were drinking. Sounds like a perfect bonding time conversation. Ideally, parents would heed the advice while teens are high school and check out www.thepowerofparents.org and get a jumpstart on setting the rules early for their kids.

Your shopping at a teen store, you need a flask, right?

2010-02-03T10:41:00.000-08:00

Received a media call today from an outlet requesting comment about bedazzled flasks being sold at retail outlet aimed at older teens. I wasn't too surprised given we've received these calls quite a lot over the years, especially prior to prom and graduation. It's not bad enough that thousands of people are impacted by underage drinking each year and that it is illegal, but somehow making flasks available to those young teen girls hovering in the late teens and pre-21 range, seems like a good thing? Unfortunately, across America, flasks, shot glasses, shirts, and the like are marketing to youth. Enough already.

Who Provides the Alcohol?

2010-02-02T12:37:00.000-08:00

Now, this is a strange one. Or maybe not. High profile, community leader, commissioned with protecting everyone is charged with providing alcohol to those under 21 years old.

It is so important to know who, what, when when your teens are involved. Who are they with? What are they doing? When will they be home? If they live on college campuses, checking in on them is a good reminder you care. If something seems amiss, it probably is.

You say Potato and I say Pototo

2010-01-29T12:42:00.000-08:00

So what is the easiest and most effective way to communicate as a family about serious issues? How do men and women approach parenting and tough topics, like underage drinking? This article provides some insight. Generally, working together and listening are good starts but that may be harder than it seems. With an equal goal of raising responsible, healthy and safe children who become compassionate, generous, smart, disciplined, productive and talented adults, it may be challenging to get onto the same page when parenting, but not impossible.

Keep the conversation going

2010-01-27T08:50:00.000-08:00

As I talked about in December, the holidays were another good opportunity to talk to your teens about not drinking until they are 21 and about never getting in the car with a drinking driver. I had that talk...again...while my daughter was home from college break. While she always tells me, "I know Mom. I don't drink", she also told me that she does go to parties and there is often booze. She is always the designated driver and has found ways to say "no thanks" without being seen as a goody two shoes. Your teen can do this, too. Keep the conversation going...you are doing a great job!

Drinking in Front of the Kids

2010-01-26T09:38:00.000-08:00

What is more American that burgers and beer? Likely we'll all see a lot of this around July 4th, a celebration of Independence Day. Parents are likely to run into situations where they are drinking in front of their children or teens but what is the best way to handle this and communicate to your children? Mine are only 14 months, three and six. I won't have the conversation for a while. This is a good article to help navigate parents.

Boy Found in the Snow

2010-01-22T12:28:00.000-08:00

This is a very sad and tragic story. Boy meets friends. Boy drinks with friends. He is 15 years old and somehow when friends drop him off at home, they say he goes in but father finds him off in snow and woods next morning nearly dead. Eventually, he dies. 15 years old...a rite of passage some say. Another reason providing alcohol to teens must stop.

2010-01-13T12:42:00.001-08:00

http://ping.fm/h2sUA
Is parenting like a vacation in that he first part you are trying to relax and figure everything out but by that time it's over? (generally speaking) Or, is it like the old adage, life is what happens when you are making plans for it?

2010-01-12T07:10:00.001-08:00

http://ping.fm/QhAoc
keeping your eyes on the road more important than ever before....what are your distractions in the car?

2010-01-07T13:37:00.001-08:00

life gives you lemons, make lemonade...or in this instance make poor choices and buy the lemonade
http://ping.fm/6HFhS

2010-01-06T14:36:00.001-08:00

why do parents drive drunk? how do parents deal with their stress?
http://ping.fm/znuCi

Holiday Break...a good time to talk

2009-12-15T19:40:00.000-08:00

As we approach the holidays and our kids are out of school, it seems a good time to talk once again about underage drinking (not to do it, that is) and drunk driving prevention. Parties are happening almost every night and especially on New Year's Eve and this is an especially deadly time of year. Remind the kids--underage drinking is not acceptable. Remind them to never get in the car with anyone who has been drinking. And most importantly, don't ever put your kids (or another persons kids) in the car with anyone who has been drinking alcohol. Have a safe and happy holiday season!

2009-12-14T07:45:00.001-08:00

http://ping.fm/AhjIh "Why do parents drive drunk"?

2009-12-09T08:26:00.001-08:00

http://ping.fm/JRhPu
why do parents drive drunk? (a question that will be asked upon sharing key family related articles on a regular basis)

2009-12-09T08:18:00.001-08:00

http://bit.ly/85NVuL
good job Maine, Nebraska, Vermont, South Dakota and Wisconsin...lots of room for improvement in Texas, Wyoming, Pennsylvania and Idaho...

2009-12-08T10:23:00.001-08:00

The creator of Popeye would have been 115 years old today. Little did he know that MADD would have taken his advice to heart, chugged some spinach, and aim to rid the roadways of the fiercest "Brutus"--drunk driving. Olive and Wimpy would be so pleased and so much safer.

2009-12-08T09:57:00.001-08:00

Ping.fm / Integration http://ping.fm/integration/

Leandra

2009-11-18T07:21:00.000-08:00

Nov. 18, 2009

Leandra's law passed in New York making it a felony to drive drunk with a child in the vehicle. Leandra was just 11 years old when her friends mother flipped her car killing Leandra. Young people that drink often do become adults that that drive drunk. Not all the time, but a lot of the time.

Another case out of New York that caught the world's attention was that of a mother driving impaired killing herself and three other adults and four children. We received a ton of calls about women and drunk driving following this horrific crash. It is important to know that often these things don't just happen but rather there are patterns of early drinking and impairment that go unchecked and could result in future destruction of families.

As a parent of three girls, I too want to make sure they understand it is about drinking underage and it is about all of the other problems that often stem from that later in life. While this article in TIME is a bit dated, it still rings true today. I have some time before the girls are in high school but my husband and I are committed to protecting them and guiding them to make smart choices.

Family dinner--do you eat with your kids?

2009-11-03T12:53:00.000-08:00

This interesting fact just came in an email:

Compared to teens who have frequent family dinners (five or more per week), those who have infrequent family dinners (fewer than three per week) are more than one and a half times likelier to use alcohol? This according to the Importance of Family Dinners V, a new report by The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (CASA) at Columbia University.

It seems like common sense that if you eat with your kids, they'll be less like to use alcohol. But, we all get so busy with work, school, sports, church/synagogue that sometimes....OK many times for some families....it is just easier to drive through. If that is how it works in your family, don't despair. You can still talk to your kids about underage drinking in the car. Use the conversation starters that are on www.thepowerofparents.org to give you some hints.

With my own daughter, I found that time driving in the car with her was the best time to talk. She often told me things that were really bugging her or going on in her life while we were driving somewhere. Just be sure to turn off the TV/game system if you have one of those in your car so you have his/her full attention. Pop chats, as I like to call them, can be very effective.

Challenges

2009-11-03T07:40:00.000-08:00

November 2, 2009

So, my 5 nearly 6 year old daughter has a mind of her own. The only problem is she influences her little sister, often into doing things I don't want them to do. The older daughter says she forgot, or didn't hear me and quickly heads down the street and out of our front yard nearly out of view with little sister in tow. She is adventurous but doesn't understand what could happen and as I call for her to return she sees she is in trouble. All of this to say, she is nearly six, but won't I deal with same kind of thing the older she gets, say 13, 15, etc? According to this Wall Street Journal blog, she could become a great leader because of her pushing boundaries attitude. My goal as a parent and mom is to make sure they all know they are loved. In trying to find ways to discipline and show them love the way they'll respond and hear, I want to figure these things out now so when the challenges of growing up for them increase in difficulty (like a video game), they'll turn to my husband and I versus just their peers.

POP, It's Your Influence launch

2009-10-29T07:12:00.000-07:00

Tuesday was a great start to POP! Dr. Robert Turissi of PSU, Bill Windsor of Nationwide Insurance (our presenting sponsor :-)) and myself did a radio media tour where we were on 20 radio stations/radio networks across the country all morning. The media company tells us our message reached approximately 11,890,000 listeners!

Hope you got to tune in on a local station or ABC Radio Network or CNN Radio. Listen/watch for more media as we roll out the parent handbook within a month.

Oh yeah...there are also several bloggers on other "Mom" sites blogging about the launch.

Red Ribbon Week

2009-10-25T14:16:00.000-07:00

October 25, 2009

Many schools around the country recognize National Red Ribbon Week this time of month. Crazy socks, buttons, pins, anything to remind elementary kids to never do drugs or alcohol. It is interesting that parents are a great influence on their children's alcohol use. Consider the fact that as a mom, you especially, have lots of power to dissuade your child to not drink underage. You may decide not to do crazy sock day at home to get the point across, but it just may work as a reminder on top of your call to action in this area for the little ones. Now, the older ones are another matter. I'm not there yet, but have heard. One day at a time.

Welcome

2009-10-22T12:34:00.000-07:00

Thanks for visiting us at MADD Parents! This is a place for all parents...not just Moms....to talk with other parents about issues they are facing with their teens in regards to underage drinking prevention. I hope that you will use thepowerofparents.org Website when it is launched next week as a jumping on point to help you start or continue lifesaving conversations with your kid(s). Welcome!